Nope. No motivational quotes today.
No Pinterest affirmations.
You tried, you showed up, you did your best
but wait, what if you didn’t?
What if you actually didn’t do your best?
What if it was all your fault?
What if you were the problem?
You want to be on Forbes 30 under 30, but the only job you’ve ever given full attention is expecting someone to save you? You say you want to be a billionaire in your twenties, but you spend hours scrolling, gossiping, refreshing other people’s profiles, you want to get a promotion but you’re hanging out at the club with your boys every other night arguing about Ronaldo’s new haircut.
You say you deserve a seat at the table, but you don’t even bring a chair or an idea.
Maybe you are the problem.
You want to learn and be the smartest in the room but the only thing you’re reading is random tweets on X and empty Instagram captions. You say you want to graduate with a first class, but you’ve convinced yourself that one night of cramming can replace a semester of laziness.
You want excellence, but settle for mediocrity every time.
You pray for results without respecting the process.
Maybe you are the problem.
You want your friendships to look like those curated aesthetics on TikTok but if your friends don’t check up on you, you couldn’t be bothered to check up on them. You get jealous when your friends accomplish something but you want the world to scream your praises when you manage to lift a finger. You want to be loved unconditionally, but your love has fine print, terms, and conditions. You want to be one everyone apologizes to, the center of attention, you want to be the glue of the friend group so you go around gossiping about every other person. You want to be showered with gifts on your birthday but throw an attitude when it’s time to be intentional about someone else. You want to be surrounded by good, like-minded people but get triggered when someone is doing better than you.
You can’t own up to anything and instead choose the manipulation and gaslighting route.
You want friendship for decades but your motto is friendship is not by force and you do well to remind your friends of that.
Maybe you are the problem.
Ah, My favorite. You want a love that sees you through and through but can’t be bothered to learn any detail about your partner. You want a deep, soulful love but you can't have a deep, honest conversation without getting defensive.
You want to be loved for your flaws, but refuse to even acknowledge them.
You expect someone to heal you, but won’t pick up the pieces yourself.
You want someone to fight for you, but every small disagreement has you running for the door muttering something about how you can't deal.
You want a “forever person,” but you can barely commit to a 3-month plan. You demand emotional intimacy, yet you're always hiding behind sarcasm and detachment. You want the rewards of love, but none of the responsibility.
You expect forgiveness for the wounds you cause but hold grudges like it's your birthright.
You want to the find the right person but what if YOU are the wrong person?
You want to live a fairytale so you compare your relationship to carefully curated videos on social media?
Maybe you are the problem
You want God to show up for you like a genie, but treat Him like a background character in your story. You want God to prove himself to you when at this point, you should be proving yourself to God (yes, I said it). You want divine intervention, but won’t even give Him five minutes of genuine attention. You want to be outside on a Saturday night but lift holy hands on Sunday morning. You want to serve God when it’s convenient, when it looks good on Instagram, but ignore Him when it gets uncomfortable. You keep asking for signs, maybe this is your sign, maybe the fact that you’re still alive is your sign.
You want God to rewrite your story, but refuse to hand Him the pen.
Maybe you are the problem.
You want to live a life that’s memorable, but your habits are forgettable. You want to be extraordinary, but run from anything that demands extra from you.
You want breakthrough, but fear breaking. You pray for clarity, but cover your ears when truth is spoken.
You hide behind random quotes from strangers that support your bad habits.
You chant mantras every morning while making life unbearable for those around you. Maybe you are the problem.
And maybe… that’s good news. (I said, maybe)
Because if you are the problem, then you can also be the solution.
You are not powerless. You are not doomed. You don’t have to stay the same. You can change. You can take responsibility. You can choose differently. You can try again.
(I know I said no motivational quotes, but we both know I'm not like that)
You just have to stop lying to yourself long enough to start living.
No more quotes. No more affirmations. No more distractions.
Just truth.
Maybe you are the problem.
And maybe that’s where change begins.
Two in one day? Na you o